Random Esquire

Remember how I said that I was going to give up chasing women and just let someone seduce me?  I’m failing miserably.  What can I say?  I like to chase.

Anyway, in a somewhat related conversation, I asked QT what adjective she’d use to describe her dating style.  Not necessarily how you see yourself but what is it that tends to draw people to you.  What over-arching characteristic about you tends to attract people?  For example, I think that when people see QT, they think: “FUN.”  That’s the word that first pops into my head.  She’s usually laughing or, at the very least, has a smile on her face.  That kind of energy attracts people to her.

I asked her what word she’s use for me.

She thought and said, “So, what is the ONE word that describes a…”

I listened closely and was pleased to hear her say “self aware, financially stable,…”

and then it went downhill.

“…boob loving, motorboating, does-not-put-up-with-women-emotions-but-dates-women kind of person?”

I’m sure I curled my lip a little.

I said, “EVOLVED?  It is EVOLVED?”

And then she said this:

“Well, I don’t think anyone would look at you and say FUN.”

*Blink*

I had to laugh because I think the first thing most people learn about me is that I have an active sense of humor.  I find pretty much everything around me amusing on some level.  And, just to clarify – I actually tend to find emotional women very attractive.  I just have limits.  They are high – but they are there.  *cough*

Anyway, we did not come up with a good one for me.   We tentatively agreed on ‘politely aggressive’ but that makes me sound a little like an ape with some manners and doesn’t really answer the question, I don’t think.  I like to think that I’m very respectful of women.  Maybe that is my style?  I don’t know what my style would be because, well, I think I’d have to ask the women I’ve dated.

As for styles I like? I suppose it depends and evolves as I do.  Strong, confident women are attractive – especially if they are teasing me just a bit.  I enjoy a good tease because I like to chase.  No one wants to chase someone in a straight line until they catch them.  That’s call catching up.  I like to chase.

I think I just decided that I’m respectfully aggressive.  I’m a socially conscious ape.  Fabulous.

So how would you describe your dating style? What is it about you that you think attracts people to you? Is there a particular over-arching personality trait that you find irresistible in someone?