Comments on: People who lose their temper or control. Do you know anyone like this?

By: Spider

Spider — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:25:00 +0000

Hi. I need to share. I have the most annoying and hot-tempered brother-in-law. While waiting for our new place, we stayed with him. Gosh. The tempers we had to put up with was incorrigible. Once, the maid had accidentally burnt his wife’s shirt while ironing. The overemotional wife cried! And the poor maid got a lashing of vulgarities from him. It was embarassing, more so for him than anyone else – we all thought it was extremely bad behaviour, even the kids felt embarrased for him. But VERY strangly, he seemed proud of what he did. He kept boasting how he “told her off” etc and all because your wife cried over a burnt shirt? It was disgusting and overreaction.

There was another incident where one of my kids had tapped the hand of his kid. He went into a hysterical rage, chased my daughter into the balcony and kicked her then and there. We never found any of these out until we left the house. Unfortunately my kids have no respect for him now. He is seen by our family as an embarassment.

We found out months later and he was fuming mad. He used vulgarities on my and called me all kinds of horrible names. But we all knew, it was his way of being ashamed. So we just let him wallow in his own pathetic guilt.

By: Bird Clan Diva

Bird Clan Diva — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 04:51:28 +0000

Do I know someone like this? Heck yeah! It used to be me. I’d get into fights in school if somebody even looked funny at me. I was a teenager, but it was still inappropriate and disgustingly selfish behavior.
I learned it from my mom, who is in her fifties and still exhibits that behavior. It was really bad when I was younger though, she would throw a tantrum if she got home and there was a dish in the sink or something out of place, or sometimes if she just felt like it. We were always on eggshells around her.
One time she threw a fit because she and her boyfriend were fighting, and she blamed myself and my siblings for her relationship woes. She trashed half of the house and then threatened to kill herself. I was 12, my sister was 10, and my two brothers were under the age of 8. Real fun times.

It wasn’t until I got older that I realized that adults aren’t supposed to act like that, and I decided to stop my retarded behavior too. I still slip up from time to time, but mostly, I just hold it until I can get somewhere and calm down. Sometimes, if I just analyze the situation logically, I can see that what I am getting pissed about is really just stupid and getting angry just makes me look foolish.

By: eb

eb — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 23:37:47 +0000

Sometimes it can be a chemical imbalance, the effects of alcohol/drugs on one’s family. Which leads to not being selfishness or self centered. Just my opinion and I can respect yours.

By: QTMama

QTMama — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:11:23 +0000

Sometimes I read your blog and learn a shitload RE. I heart you for that.

By: Bobbi Janay

Bobbi Janay — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:03:53 +0000

Wow, didn’t they learn in school or from there parents that is not acceptable behavior.

By: T

Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:02:30 +0000

I wrote about this a few weeks ago on my blog: http://tsquest.blogspot.com/2009/06/perspective.html

I had a woman lose it with me over something so small. But you are right. It is all a matter of perspective. To some people, they can’t get out of their own perspectives to even attempt to see someone else’s.

By: Random Esquire

Random Esquire — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 12:30:46 +0000

@KT – Very teenager like, right? And I’m glad you also see the connection to self-centeredness. I have a friend who thinks she should be treated like a princess on her birthday because her parents always did. I sometimes wonder how these people survive in the world which must seem SO CRUEL to them.

*eyeroll*

-R.

By: Random Esquire

Random Esquire — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 12:27:30 +0000

@lynchseattle I remember you mentioned that bus incident! I see a pedestrian-driver smackdown about once every 6 weeks or so and it often involves a bus.

I strive to do the walk away thing. Most of the time, my perspective changes for the better even after a few minutes. Angry people BOO!

By: KT

KT — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 10:44:03 +0000

My experience with this?

My ex.

Not so much the outbursts of anger but when something contradicted his selfish view of the world, he was resentful and sullen.

Boy was that fun.

You’re right – outbursts like that come from a place of extreme self-centeredness. And no wonder. Many parents are treating their children as if they are the most special, wonderful creatures EVER – which they are. However, they are not teaching their children that other people’s children are also the most special, wonderful creatures ever and should be treated with respect. We’ve shifted from ‘What can I do for you?’ to ‘What can you do for me?’

By: lynchseattle

lynchseattle — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 04:50:28 +0000

I’ve seen this one happen a few times. Just the other day a bus crossing the street got stuck on the crosswalk and a pedestrian literally starting pounding on the side of the bus until it moved. That’s right. His lazy ass refused to walk around.

Now, if he had done that to my car… I literally might have had to give him an atomic noogie

I’ve seen it at work too. It’s terrible and hard to watch. Sometimes the beat thing to do is walk away. Even though it’s hard to do.