Comments on: High School, Breeds, I am offensive, etc. http://randomesq.com/2006/10/15/high-school-breeds-i-am-offensive-etc/ The Random Observations of a Random Esquire Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:04:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Random Esquire http://randomesq.com/2006/10/15/high-school-breeds-i-am-offensive-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-2790 Random Esquire Sat, 08 Mar 2008 17:32:54 +0000 http://www.randomesq.com/home/rando13/public_html/2006/10/15/high-school-breeds-i-am-offensive-etc/#comment-2790 You're very thoughtful. It *is* hard because some people think, "Why not just ask me?" and other people think that approach is completely backwards. Thank you for the comment, small town girl. -R. You’re very thoughtful. It *is* hard because some people think, “Why not just ask me?” and other people think that approach is completely backwards. Thank you for the comment, small town girl.

-R.

]]> By: small town girl http://randomesq.com/2006/10/15/high-school-breeds-i-am-offensive-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-2778 small town girl Sat, 08 Mar 2008 08:58:15 +0000 http://www.randomesq.com/home/rando13/public_html/2006/10/15/high-school-breeds-i-am-offensive-etc/#comment-2778 I have thought of asking the same thing but wouldn't dare so I think I understand why that person had a hard time asking. If I meet a new person for example and I don't know what they're a mix of I won't ask because I'm afraid they'll be offended. Race is such a touchy subject nowadays, some people don't like it when you call them 'black' other people balk at the idea of being called 'african american' and others embrace those labels for themselves. You don't know that though when you first meet a person! I'm just afraid I will come across as rude if I ask and use the wrong term for that person so I keep my mouth shut unless they bring it up. It's less risky than opening it, saying the wrong thing or having it misinterpreted and accused of being a racist. To me this is akin to going up to an overweight woman and asking her when the baby is due and touching her stomach. Obviously you have no idea why she has a round belly if she's a stranger to you. Why risk offending or hurting her feelings? Wait for her to bring it up, thats what I do I have thought of asking the same thing but wouldn’t dare so I think I understand why that person had a hard time asking.

If I meet a new person for example and I don’t know what they’re a mix of I won’t ask because I’m afraid they’ll be offended.

Race is such a touchy subject nowadays, some people don’t like it when you call them ‘black’ other people balk at the idea of being called ‘african american’ and others embrace those labels for themselves. You don’t know that though when you first meet a person! I’m just afraid I will come across as rude if I ask and use the wrong term for that person so I keep my mouth shut unless they bring it up. It’s less risky than opening it, saying the wrong thing or having it misinterpreted and accused of being a racist.

To me this is akin to going up to an overweight woman and asking her when the baby is due and touching her stomach. Obviously you have no idea why she has a round belly if she’s a stranger to you. Why risk offending or hurting her feelings? Wait for her to bring it up, thats what I do

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